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Organizing IIT 2013 Global Conference – from inception to execution

Organizing IIT 2013 Global Conference – from inception to execution
-          Partha Sarathi Chatterjee

IITAGH and the IIT 2013 Global Conference team are basking in an afterglow of a dazzling conference. Three cold wintry days in December have changed the perception of Houston as a venue and IITAGH as the organizing host for a global IIT conference. 
Legacy has been left; reluctant PanIIT conference attendees cannot wait for the next IIT event; there is electricity in the air. If it was Muhammad Ali, we would have said “We shocked the world!”  As team members and attendees, you have enabled the metamorphosis - kudos go to every one of you because you immersed yourself in the greater WE – the team!

THE first attempt and then, inception

Houston and IITAGH have been trying to get the PanIIT global event– believe me, we were knocking on that door since fall of 2009. Supposedly, we had a smaller alumni base, an organization without relevant big conference experience, without a flashy industry base – information technology or finance to attract sponsors and speakers. Our turn in 2011 came and went as we got the news on that February day in 2010.
As they say in NFL draft, we got the call on July 15, 2012. Houston, you have been drafted to organize IIT 2013 – less than seventeen months to organize the biggest global PanIIT event.
IITAGH Board and Trustees had a meeting. It was not an overwhelming yes vote to organize the event – some of the IITAGH old-timers were worried about the attendance at our events and our organizational capability; some who were not involved in IITAGH organizationally but had organized other conferences and were part of the original proposal wanted to do it. Ultimately, as a team, Houston decided to take up the challenge – let’s show the world.

Initial planning – 90-day team

First planning meeting happened at Stress Engineering on August 4, 2012. We discussed details of what we proposed, how IIT conferences are organized, discussed vision and themes and finally, landed on a small team to start the preparation.
We had an initial team of seven people – called the 90 day team which spanned August-October of 2012. We had worked on venues, the team structure with responsibilities – we decided to focus on the structure first before filling in the names. Structure got ratified in a joint Board and Trustees meeting. We also conceptually agreed that there will be a Chair and Co-Chair in each of the critical areas so that we are not dependent on just one person and there is someone to step up in case of emergency.  We got the Chair (Witty Bindra) and Vice-Chair (Pratish Kanani) ratified in a subsequent meeting along with few key committee chairs.  While the committee was being slowly built up, we went into negotiation with Hilton and George Brown on the venue availability and dates.  With Hilton having several offers for Christmas parties, negotiations were long and hard, with finally T.K. Das closing the deal.
Work started on theme, logos and website. After several weeks of focused discussion on themes, we came up with “Inspiring Innovation for Tomorrow”, submitted by our own Sandman – Sundy Srinivasan. Hence, Sundy got the honors to launch our beta website internally at the kickoff meeting in November. Logo was based on the theme – IIT with an image of sun wrapped around it. Sun stands for energy (inspiration), sparks on the sun symbolize brain spark or innovation and finally, rising sun points to the future.

Conference Planning

Armed with theme, a rolling presentation, flyers, Witty Bindra went to Kolkata.  He launched the official www.iit2013.org website in India at the IIT 2012 Global Conference. He met with Airport Authority of India Charman, Narayana Murthy, Nandan Nilekani,  Monahar Parrikar, Mamata Bannerjee, Arvind Kejriwal, and Usha Uthap and started marketing the Conference in Kolkata. Buzz was spreading but what do we need to do to deliver?
After several rounds of negotiation taking couple of months, we landed on December 6-8, 2013 at the Hilton. Outreach team, led by Hemant Jha, started their outreach campaign. Outreach had several sessions in Dallas, Austin, San Antonio. Outreach campaign reached other cities and focused emails went out to Foundation and regional lists. Sponsorship team, led by Surajit Dasgupta and Richard D’Souza, landed KBR as the first sponsor.  They did a fabulous job – collecting the highest revenue every collected for an IIT conference.
One common theme – we need marquee speakers to attract sponsors and attendees and for marketing to market the event. Program team, led by Pradeep Anand and Sunil Pangarkar, decided on STEEL – that seemed to galvanize the program structure. Sustainability, technology, education, energy and life sciences were five threads, woven together to face the challenges of today and find the solutions of tomorrow. With Amartya Sen, Vicente Fox and Andrew Gould and finally, Miss America, IIT 2013 sailboat now had wind in its sails.
Operation team, led by T.K. Das and Dhruba Ghose, focused on the execution – planning for every little thing of the conference – food, audio-visual, facilities, transportation and so many others. Outreach and operations worked together on the onsite registration. On the design end, they worked with marketing who provided the designs for everything from merchandise to banners to backdrops.
Business Plan competition, led by Suraj Mhatre and Abhay Sawant, put entrepreneurs in place and more importantly, brought together an incredible group of contestants, bright-eyed and ready for prime time.
Student volunteers were an impressive addition at the end – the ladies, led by Renu Jain, worked together to publicize the opportunity, sort through the applicants and finally, train them. Finance team, led by Abhijit Gadgil and Prabhu Murugan, constantly monitored the budget, fine-tuned numbers, and asked the necessary questions, making sure we were prudent and not profligate.
Exhibition team, led by Vinay Mehta and later, Ravi Guddeti, sold our booths out, with an impressive pickup of momentum towards the end.
Marketing, led by Partha Chatterjee and Siddhartha Sinha, aimed to create an ambiance of innovation during the conference. Team designed a brochure with a glossy finish and perfect binding. Backdrops, designs and signage were prepared to augment the ambiance. Paintings on innovation and a special marquee video on innovation played before each session, added to that aura.
Finally, Witty Bindra and Pratish Kanani made sure that they coordinated between the teams. More importantly, they kept the external pressures from all corners, who are bigwigs in all walks of life, off the team’s back as much as possible.  It was important to keep the conference true to the goals we set up, the themes we focused on and it was critically important to stay on course, without getting diverted. 
We are ready to roll – but will the conference rock? Will the hours of dedicated work, time away from families, bear fruit?

Conference Execution – December 5-8, 2013

Chairman’s reception, supported by Bharat Desai and Umang Gupta, kicked the conference off with a great show, performed by Anjali School of Dance. From the Chairman’s reception to opening ceremony to plenary sessions to breakout sessions to closing ceremony, the content was fabulous. 
People crowded the sessions – our worry of having too less people in the session was proved wrong. Attendees loved the sessions, speakers and last but not the least, our religious adherence to time. From Vicente Fox to Andrew Gould to Amartya Sen to so many others, speakers were eloquent, open and not adverse to touching controversial subjects. Programs were well-planned with speakers well-coordinated. Moderators did a great job pulling the speakers together.
Operational details impressed people- wide choice of foods, the chargers, the audio-visuals. Attendees loved the onsite registration and not having to stand in line for long. It moved very efficiently. Business Plan Competition had fantastic attendance, great presentations and hopefully, really successful future entrepreneurs.  Ambiance created by the dazzling backdrop, wide variety of signage, the video on innovation added to the conference experience. Attendees were truly impressed.
Post-conference, the accolades just continued to flow to Witty Bindra, Pratish Kanani and the entire team. We got flooded with emails and notes in the first few days. Old-timers said – “best Pan IIT conference ever”; newcomers wondered why others discouraged them from attending – this is a fantastic experience!
The TEAM delivered and we did rock!

Why the success and what now?

Many have come over and wondered why the Houston conference was a success.
First and foremost, we were a team – we placed the team goal of delivering a super conference above everything else. We did clash, differ on ideas but at the end of the day, we pulled in one direction.  
Secondly, we were dedicated and considered this as much of a job as anything else. Every single volunteer went above and beyond to excel. It was not about a volunteering opportunity with no responsibility – we took this very seriously and held each other accountable.
Next, we paid attention to details and did a what-if analysis before to a large extent. We had contingency; we planned ahead; we kept buffer and we pushed each other.
Finally, there was stability at the top and consistency of the plan and approach – we had a plan and we worked the plan. We were consistent and prepared!
So, friends, this was a team effort. Few months back, with some of our experience at organizing other conferences, I had implored – “Successful events create legacy. Let's create a legacy.”

The same Houston, which was thought to be too small, devoid of big time conference experience – now will be seen as THE template for conference, the team as THE model team to run events and organizations and the leadership to pull all this together. You, my friends, have left a legacy – the challenge for all of us is how to build on this as part of IITAGH and pan IIT movement and create something better.

Let’s do it together as a TEAM – together everyone achieves more!



Leveraging IIT and giving back through innovation

Leveraging IIT and giving back through innovation
Partha Sarathi Chatterjee

As we gather for the IIT 2013 Global conference, I feel it is appropriate that we reflect upon the significance of the year 2013. It is 100 years after two pivotal events - Rabindranath Tagore winning the Nobel Prize as the first Asian and Mahatma Gandhi‘s using Satyagraha campaign as a non-violent movement, which literally means “insistence on truth”. They signify the indomitable human spirit – a spirit which aspires to write about the truth and stand up for ideals, even while living under bondage. A spirit which is not concerned with just self-preservation but about the greater good; a spirit which is not about doing enough but about excellence; finally, a spirit not satisfied with status quo but about breaking barriers and pushing one to his/her limits.

This year’s conference is about that selfless, self-motivated spirit, which drives towards higher goals and about the greater “WE”. I have often thought about the IIT experience – what did it really teach us, why do we fondly remember those years and finally, how can we leverage those lessons learned.
Growing up in India, I always valued the IIT brand. To me, it not only signified brilliance but also, the dedication and diligence required to achieve one’s goals. I was young enough to not know what engineering meant but knew that it was difficult to get into IIT. It was a challenge and it had to be met. What I study and what does it do for my career came next.

Getting to IIT was just the start of a phenomenal journey. The notion of only nerds making it to IIT is one of the glaring misconceptions about IIT. IIT actually brings together a motley crew of people from diverse backgrounds from different regions, languages and cultures. It is a microcosm of the global village we live in. As one travelled away from parents and near and dear ones, there was rarely close supervision. From time management to prioritization of fun vs. funda, we continued the juggling act. That was one of the best and practical real-life management courses I ever had. Time management, relationship building, managing diverse backgrounds and culture, handling stress, wearing different hats, teamwork and leadership, campaigning (sales) and resourcefulness (entrepreneurship?) learned during those years help you in the long run. All of us treasure those four years not solely because of the lessons learned within the classroom but learned as part of many activities of the campus life.

Just like a mathematician, I want to establish that our success in our professional lives can be attributed to the experiences of those four years – we benefited immensely.  Remember, our education and campus existence were subsidized to a large extent by the general public. Also, on an individual basis, we were lucky to be blessed with an IIT education, where we learned fast and we applied ourselves. We count our blessings – brilliance and drive are two excellent building blocks for future success.

So, what now?

It is time to think about giving back – not necessarily through financial contribution but through ideas, innovation, and organization towards a better future for the greater humanity. A hundred years after two extraordinary human beings broke barriers, it is time for us to push the limit, tackle the hard problems of the world – not think about myself but the global we.

As we celebrate ten years after the first global IIT conference, we as IITians should take a moment and reflect on our successes. But, it is more important to look forward and think about ways to give back. Blessed with tools to succeed, supported by a whole nation, we should put our collective brains together to analyze the problems and solve them. I strongly feel that if the conference provides the foundation on which we come up with at least one new idea to address one key issue of the next century, I will consider this a great success.
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nnovation for the future will be the gift from the gifted and fortunate to the less fortunate. That is the legacy of IIT 2013, the legacy of the best and brightest – a contribution for the greater humanity.

Partha, a 1987 graduate of IIT Kharagpur in Computer Science, a Gold Medalist in Computer Science in MS at USC and MBA from Texas A&M University, is the Chair for marketing and media at IIT 2013 Global Conference and a member of Board of Directors at IIT Foundation. He leads the global energy and finance management consulting practice at SunGard as Director of Consulting Services.


Organizing IIT 2013 Global Conference – crown jewel for Houston and IITAGH - Six months away

Organizing IIT 2013 Global Conference – crown jewel for Houston and IITAGH

We are less than six months away from hosting the IIT 2013 Global Conference on Innovation. As IIT alumni in the Houston area, it is our unique opportunity to be the hosts for the entire global IIT alumni. We can now showcase not only the capability of IITAGH as an organization but also Houston, the city we call our home.

It is about the global “WE”

Theme of the conference is “Inspiring Innovation for Tomorrow”. When we, as the organizers, put our heads together, we felt that many of us have been blessed with success in our lives; this conference provides us with the opportunity to deliver something meaningful for the greater good for the future. It is not about thinking about me or you – it is about thinking about the bigger “WE”, the longer future.  

Teamwork - Organizing a Global Conference

Organizing the conference has been a tremendous experience. It is really heart-warming that so many volunteers have come forward to help with time, effort, ideas and contacts. You cannot even think about putting together such a global conference without the unfettered support from a multitude of volunteers. We all realize that at the end of the day, we want to deliver a flawless conference – which all of us will be proud of.
From program to outreach, marketing to sponsorship, operations to finance, exhibits to logistics, we need all the teams to work together.  In addition to the volunteers here in Houston, we have gotten tremendous support from IITians and others world over.  People are constantly coming forward with ideas, contacts so that we can leverage those as we move forward.
 In short, it is not about just one person or few people – it is about the whole symphony to work in unison to produce sweet music of success.

Why attend

Question keeps coming up is why should we attend? Well, the conference is about fun, funda and future. 
You will get to network, meet old friends, share stories and enjoy the camaraderie we cherish so dearly.  From listening to Pink Floyd or Dire Straits to sharing stories about ragging or fests, we all love reliving those precious experiences – you will get a chance to do that.  How about participating in that quiz or dumb charade which you rocked decades back and your better half or kids never knew about? That is the fun!
IIT 2013 will also give you an opportunity to listen to the thought leaders, discuss the problems of today and the potential solutions of tomorrow. As I said earlier, it is about putting on a thinking cap and germinating the ideas which can solve few of the myriad problems afflicting the world.
Have you thought about how the world of 7 billion in 2045 will survive? Where will they get the energy? How will they tackle the diseases? How will we educate our masses? Can we sustain the world and not continue to deplete the resources? That is the mix of funda and future – making funda work for the future!

In conclusion..

Do you want to network with your IIT peers, innovators and influencers, and have fun at the same time? Do you wish to hear the latest ideas from recognized experts in energy, healthcare, technology, etc.? How about promoting your own brand or connecting with the right people to launch your new business venture? Do you like to have fun?  If these sound good to you, put this on your calendar right away and head to Houston, Texas, in 2013!
Finally, rarely in life, we get a chance to make a real difference in the lives of so many for the distant future. IIT 2013 is one such occasion – do you want to sit on the sidelines or do you want to embrace this opportunity, work with a great team and deliver a fantastic conference for all of us to remember?
IIT 2013 beacons you to step up – we surely need you!


US-India Summit on Economy and Finance

US-India Summit on Economy and Finance

Almost twenty-four years after coming to the country, I was fortunate to be invited as an US delegate on Financial Regulations in the US-India Summit, co-sponsored by Brookings Institute and Confederation of Indian Industry. It was headlined by Timothy Geithner, Secretary, U.S. Department of Treasury under President Obama, and Pranab Mukherjee, Finance Minister, Government of India. I have been working on a global think-tank on technology and management strategy related to financial industry and financial regulation and investment control were at the heart of this bilateral summit.

What struck me was the reverence with which India and its beliefs and accomplishments were treated by the leader of the Free World, United States. India’s growth rate, its rich pool of talented researchers, technologists and experts, it’s belief in secularism, peace and democracy, its foundation built on a rich cultural and philosophical heritage were all mentioned reverentially by speaker by speaker. It’s a phenomenal transition for me – coming on a student scholarship to work on a NASA/NSF-funded project to a land of dreams and opportunity, where NASA represented an extra-terrestrial opportunity. Here, twenty-four years later, the US Under-Secretary, Lael Brainard, was commending India on a phenomenal growth rate, almost four-times United States’ while asking for an opportunity to participate in that growth. What a change in attitude between my motherland and my adopted homeland – from the admirer to the admired!

Here are some of the key bullet-points of India’s phenomenal growth:
·         India’s growth rate of 4-5% in early nineties has sky-rocketed to 9% for three years before the financial crisis in 2007-2008.
o   Even during the height of financial crisis, India grew at 6.8%
·         India plans to grow 8-10% over the next 20-30 years
o   That will make India the third largest global economy
·         India’s per capital income is projected to grow from $1200 in 2011 to $10,000 in 2039
·         India has very healthy savings and investment rates – 33% savings and 36% investment rates. That is much higher than the developed countries. That will fuel India’s growth rates farther, while putting India’s economy on a strong foundation.
·         India’s population will see a major shift in population from the village to the urban centers – cities and towns. About 590 million Indians will live there by 2020 – twice the population of United States.
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With this tremendous growth rate and shift in population, India needs tremendous infrastructure investment – highways, railways, office and residential infrastructure. We have all seen the absolutely phenomenal building in the last decade – 2001-2011. To keep pace with India’s growth, India needs 20 times that investment in the next decade – a mind-boggling 1 trillion dollars.
·         India needs great education, health-care and governance to keep this growth rate going and feasible. India’s pool of talented and skilled workers needs to grow – the government-run education system, which helped nurture many of us, cannot do that on its own. There is great potential to invest in that sector and fuel that growth.

·         India also has a slight deficit and India’s trade balance is in a healthy state, not a surplus or deficit to an extreme.
·         India’s inflation is at a disconcerting 10% and is affected by high commodity and food prices. Many of this is beyond India’s control – but proper attention has to be given so that inflation does not become an albatross around India’s neck.
·         India and Canada lead the framework sub-group of the G20 leadership to work on the regulations needed for the financial industry.


Obviously, faced with challenges of the global financial slowdown, United States wants to participate in India’s growth. Investments US companies can make in that sector will lead to many US jobs and also, lead to a net flow to US economy.

Can US effectively regulate its financial industry without stifling it?

US want to channel investment in Indian markets, enabling direct participation and buying/selling of Indian equities. One of the reasons US Treasury Secretary had a host of regulators and financial experts on their side was to assure India that proper regulations are being put in place to keep the financial industry in check and ensure that the global financial meltdown is not repeated in India by US and western participation. Being one of the people advising on use of technology and management controls to properly regulate the financial industry, I do understand that this assurance is a key factor in India’s decision in allowing foreign participation. That is why US secretary invited few in the US finance industry think-tank to be part of his team to address India’s concern.

With the introduction of Dodd-Frank regulations and other regulatory controls, US is working overtime to work out the right regulations to pre-empt a global meltdown. With proper technology controls and management oversight, it is possible to get an early warning and make sure that there is proper governance so that a complete unexpected meltdown is averted. US, with the help of management consultants, academicians and industry leaders, is confident that these measure will work and help ensure a robust but growing financial industry. As the person familiar with use of technology and management strategy for financial oversight and the progress of these regulations, I have faith in US ability to make giant progress in this area.

How can US help India?
·         Participate in India’s economy and markets
·         Help build out India’s infrastructure – roads, highways, railways, commercial and residential real-estate, urban planning.
·         Develop India’s private education system – help formulate right policies, leverage education experts and help build proper private institutions.
·         Build proper financial regulations and controls so that this run-away growth is tempered with right control of inflation.

As two of the largest democracies of the world, believing in freedom of religion, fighting the global war of terrorism, US and India share many of the ideals, which built the foundations of the two countries. Both have incredibly talented individuals, vast pool of resources, which can be leveraged to help each other. Born and brought up in India, in the pre-1991 days, it has been very gratifying to watch the tremendous prestige and reverence shown to India – India has earned it. In the words of Tagore, India is acquiring the top seat in global assembly!

Partha Sarathi Chatterjee, B.Tech(Hons) (IIT), M.S. (Computer Science), MBA.

Director, Energy & Finance Practice, SunGard Global Services.

Remembrance of a father – Tribute to my best friend!

Remembrance of a father – Tribute to my best friend!

Children love, adore their parents; the parents can do everything for them. That is the norm.  I do that too. But, in my case, the man, I called Baba, was my best friend. He was a man, who exemplified the spirit of life; who never made any demand, never pushed me to higher and higher expectations; who shared this incredible closeness with me as a friend!

Babi(my nickname) and Baba shared the bond, still do. This year, when Brazil lost in the World Cup, I really felt sad as a Brazil supporter; but felt much worse as I had lost my best friend, with whom I would have dissected the match for hours.

My earliest recollection left a literally indelible mark on me. He was excitedly rushing to get the “Hamaan Dishtey” (pestle used for grinding spices) to the cook, as he was organizing a “feast” at our place for many friends/neighbors and relatives. He bumped on to me, split open the forehead; he bandaged the six-seven year-old Babi and was back to organizing the feast. That mark is still there! The man loved life!

I had a bit of unique growing up – my dad never went to the bazaar; my mom never cooked. Maa was the taskmaster, laying out the schedule and expectations, and, she did do lot of Pujas and temple visits, organizing social service at Ramakrishna Mission. A doctor, Baba spent incredible hours at his own medical clinic, visiting other hospitals; his spare time was all devoted to social work, sports, and hanging out with me and my sister. He liked the pendulum swing of sports from the depths of sorrow to dizzy height of joy. He liked sharing them with me; teaching me about the finer qualities of life – teamwork, dedication, handling pressure, commitment to goals – all in the realm of sports. I saw how he managed his time – from taking care of his patients to treating the Sadhus/Sanyasins at various Ramkrishna Missions/Bharat Sevasram Sangha to pulling strings to take care of the poor and sick. He was an Eveready battery!

I was at Ishaan’s age when Mohun Bagan lost 5-0 to East Bengal, with young rookie Bhaskar Ganguly in goal. Everyone in our member stands was saying “Paisa Kheyeche” – “Has been paid off”! I did not know the meaning; Baba explained; “Everyone has a bad day; do not judge someone based on one day.”  Both of us were devastated; but he was still teaching!

I remember my Madhyamik days – my mom said “no sports, no visit to Mohum Bagan ground before the exams get over.” My father and I reluctantly agreed; as relatives/friends gathered around speculating what rank to expect in the state-wise results, he and I planned out that Federation Cup would be my first tournament after the exams. Exams got over; well, so we thought – but my Maa’s definition of exams included my orals and work/physical education exams also. I remember we had a big fight; with my father winning for a change, and, us celebrating our Fed Cup match with a post-match dinner at Aminia’s. What a father!

Back in 1986, I got offered a great internship at Software Research Institute in Pune – one of five students selected from all over India. I came home from Kharagpur and excitedly gave the news to Baba. His reply – “Takhon to World Cup?” “There is World Cup at that time?” I realized – what he meant. With that being my last summer before I graduated, how could I even think of not watching the World Cup with him? I quickly got it changed to Bhabha Atomic Research Center in Salt Lake. Someone else felt lucky that he got to go to SRI; I felt luckier spending my last summer before graduation watching World Cup at night with dad.

Fast forward to me graduating and leaving for America. The day I was leaving, he just could not leave his clinic to spend time with me. They were so many relatives, friends, neighbors – I wanted him. Then, I sat with him as we drove to the airport; I pressed his hand against me and was crying. He was stoic; my mom said when I talked after reaching US – he went off to see some patients at night. I know – he just could not be at home; he had just said good bye to his best friend. Me too, Baba – I cried the whole way – no more late night cricket watch with him, no more Mohun Bagan matches, no more chats about life, about the good or bad; about what to do and not to do!

He was given to simpler choices; never flaunted his wealth or repute. He had one famous advice for me: “If you have lost money, you have lost nothing. If you have lost your health, you have lost something. If you have lost your character, you have lost everything.” He measured people by their action; he had a strict sense of right and wrong. I remember – he never said that I cannot drink or smoke. He said “Babi, if you really find real joy and real friends, you do not need a drink or cigarette to make you happy. It is OK if others do.” When everyone was worried about my choices in hostel life, he was sure – “I trust Babi.” He had his conviction – he has raised Babi right.

Finally, when he was withering away, I had gone for one last trip to see him. With Maa away and me holding his hand,  I asked him “Baba, tell me-  have I been a good son?” I will cherish his reply – “Prosnoi othena” – No question at all!

I still miss him – miss giving him a call for advice, for just venting, for sharing good news, for sharing something I did with Ishaan or Trisha just like him, for saying thanks for teaching me about life. In this modern materialistic world, he stood out as a simple man, who did not flaunt his successes, who taught me the right and wrongs of the world, to judge people on merit, to enjoy the true meaning and worth of life.

Baba, you were a true friend, who happened to be my father. If I can become a fraction of the father you were to me, I would consider myself lucky.  May you rest in peace!

Remembrances of my mother – the motivation behind me

Remembrances of my mother – the motivation behind me
Partha Sarathi Chatterjee
It has been almost a year that I have lost my mother during Durga Puja. Eerily, I lost both my parents during Durga Puja – hardest time to handle those adversities. When I went to India, everyone consoled me – both of them truly are in Heaven, called by the Almighty. As a son, it is still difficult for me to accept.

Mother invokes reverence, love towards a person, who has borne you for months before birth and ever since, reared you with extreme love and care, which only a mother can do.  Even now, I get rattled some times in sleep – thinking my mother is there right beside me.

My mother was unique – she never cooked for me even once but prayed for me every moment of her life. I remember going for my exams at South Point and my mother spending a long time going through various flowers, chanting mantras and praying. Then, as I sat through the exams, she would perform Pujas and pray to God the entire day. She even continued that as I took my exams here in US, which meant she was up middle of the night in India.

My mother’s whole life rotated around Ramakrishna Mission, temples and Pujas. From a very young age, my sister Pompa and I attended the Sunday school at Ramakrishna Mission.  From learning Vedas/Gita and Purana to stories about Thakur, Ma and Swamiji – she was the driving force behind us being inculcated with morality and spirituality. As my father led a very busy doctor’s life, she made sure that we grew up as good human beings, with the right set of ethics and morality. I remember her saying – “You need a fence around a small plant to keep animals away; but when the roots get strong and the plant grows into a big tree, you really do not have to worry about them.” She and my father were dedicated to providing a strong moral foundation for our lives. Years later, during my hostel life at IIT and leading a bachelor life here in US, those teachings and values proved invaluable. She shared those lessons even with her grandchildren – hopefully, Ishaan and Trisha will truly take those to heart.

My mother also believed in striving hard to achieve success. She believed in making the most of God-given abilities and pushing ourselves for more. Our ancient scriptures had said – “Arise, Awake, Wait not till the goal is reached”. She truly believed in that. From kindergarten to my post-graduate days, her expectation and bar were high – that unsaid push gave us all the impetus.  As the only grandson of my grandparents, the whole family was not in favor of travelling abroad; she believed in me availing of the scholarship granted by NASA/NSF and completing higher studies. I know years later – many have asked her as to why she sent her only son away and her answer was always the same – it was my duty to rear him and it is his duty to be the best he can. She was a big believer in Gita – “Maa Phaleshu Kadacheno” – do not do something, expecting something in return.  As Arpita and I perform the role of parents, those simple lessons serve as guiding lights.

My mother was strict – everyone in my family knew that my father was soft but my mother would very rarely budge. We accepted that. She would correct people if they were wrong; when others would simply ignore. I remember every time someone would officially write down my name as “Partha” – she would correct “Partha means Arjun, Partha Sarathi means Krishna – my son’s name is Partha Sarathi”. 

Like traditional wives, she never showed any outward emotion towards my father – but when she lost my father, she just could not accept it. I saw with my own eyes – what true love means. You do not have to say anything – but both of them felt deep love towards each other. They both believed – it is better to be righteous and honest; in life, those pillars serve all of us much better. Also, they valued education and drive to excel as two other ingredients for success. She often said – “It is true - God gives you brains. It is upto you how you apply and decide what not to do.”

As another Durga Puja looms, I will miss her for all that she had done for me and my family. I know she rests in peace in Heaven, smiling down at us.